As many blog posts spring up about self-love and care, we are pulled in all directions to try a new technique, nurture ourselves this way and practice that. In reality, shouldn’t self-love be simple? Doesn’t it start with ourselves and then expand out into the world? You are right! It does. I will simplify and bring self-love to the basics so you don’t walk away overwhelmed with a new list of things to do. Instead, you will feel complete, satisfied and joyous with who you are by letting these six things go to welcome self-love into your life.
1. Stop looking at the outside for self-love.
What you truly need, only you can find. If you have been reading endless books and tried all sorts of practices from different teachers, courses, and retreats, it’s time to stop searching and take a breath. Take this pause to give your body and self a chance to tell you what it is that you need. Only when you give it space, can your desires and needs be heard and felt and that is the ultimate self-care.
2. Stop saying yes.
Sometimes it is what we say yes to that takes away from us. What is sucking your energy and spirit? What are you committing to even though it ruins your spirit and you feel like you ‘have to’? What do you need to start saying no to? Enjoy the renewed space, time and energy that you have when you become mindful to such commitments.
3. Stop treating yourself with material things you don’t actually want.
We can certainly buy and have more things but at the end of the day, what do we want? A new purse or a new experience? A sugary caffeinated drink or a warm and sweet feeling inside of us? It can be tempting to go for the tangible things which seem to give us satisfaction and contentment. It’s easy to forget the bliss that is always here in each moment for us to experience, discover and enjoy: the smell of a spring flower, a tight hug from a dear friend, the tangy scent of a peeling orange and the rhythm of our beating heart.
It’s easy to forget the bliss that is always here in each moment for us to experience, discover and enjoy: the smell of a spring flower, a tight hug from a dear friend, the tangy scent of a peeling orange and the rhythm of our beating heart.
4. Stop trying to be a better version of yourself.
The moment we set up an ideal of who we should be, we set ourselves up for suffering and pain. Desires of what we want to be or do can be healthy and promote self-love if they are not held to a standard. The danger is when we set up a standard and don’t meet it, then we set ourselves up to become a failure and qualify automatically as bad.
In order to go in a new and positive direction, we need to acknowledge where we are in the first place. This takes acceptance of who we are right now, not judgment or hoops we set up for ourselves to jump through. Love who you are now.
5. Stop doing what everyone else is doing.
You have an innate gift, but it won’t be realized if we are constantly copying and following others. There is a voice, a dance, a beat, a story which is unique to us and only we can tell. It will never be something that we can imitate from others. Give yourself the permission to be different. Feel the uniqueness in you and bath in loving knowing that you can’t be like everyone else, nor do you want to be.
6. Stop dimming your own spotlight.
You are an absolute shining star. Yes, you are so magnificent, it can be blinding to those who aren’t used to such beauty, strength, purity, perfection! And that is okay! It is time to stop hiding from your natural talents and power. You have all of that in you and more; it is safe to shine now. Let go of the doubt and be who you are meant to be. Wrap the most powerful parts of yourself also with love. Let yourself blossom completely.
If any of these six points resonated with you then you are already half way there. You are definitely not alone on this journey so don’t ever hesitate to reach out to find your sisterhood or for extra support. If you have any questions on the topics of self-love and care, just contact me in the bio information below! Because you have all the resources you need to feel amazing and confident and sometimes all we have to do is ask.
If you have any questions on the topics of self-love and care, just contact me in the bio information below! Because you have all the resources you need to feel amazing and confident and sometimes all we have to do is ask.