According to the Oxford Pocket English Dictionary, marriage is a legal union of a man and woman for cohabitation and often procreation.
Many times I view marriage as a closed user group, only certain people get in. As soon as a woman gets married she behaves differently.
She spends less time with single friends, do less fun stuff like going to parties and act all serious like she is the more mature one. So that’s why I beg the answers to the following questions posed to married women; what goes on behind that closed marriage door that changes you so much? Where did that fun loving girl go? Is it that you have lots of fun with hubby that you forget your single girlfriends? What is the real deal? I might sound as though I’m bashing you married ladies but it is really quite the opposite. I am a firm believer that many of us women should get married.
When I was younger, I always apply the phrase “the grass is greener on the other side” when referring to marriage. I would get all excited just thinking about having more permanency in my life, having someone to love, who loves me too, someone to talk and make plans with, to hug and make love to on the regular. Now I am more mature and understand that marriage may not be a world filled with frills and bubbles but other factors exist.
One has to agree that the sanctity of marriage has significantly deteriorated as evidenced by the high divorce rate. It seems to me that the sacredness of that God-given institution is no longer worth fighting for. Or, is it that couples get married for the wrong reasons therefore it doesn’t work? Take for example the part of the marriage vow that says “till death do us part”, it is brought about by deep affection for each other, but how much of what is said is actually stood by? It looks to me like some persons say that part but what they really mean is “until worse comes”.
I wonder; why I should leave this free life of being single? After all, I make my own decisions without considering anyone else or discussing it first. I don’t have to worry about going to the club and coming home late, or even wonder “what would my husband want for dinner tomorrow”. I have my own space and the question of which family reunion to go to Christmas and which to go for New Year’s never comes into play. Being single is fun to a good extent.
However, sooner or later the “fun” might not be so fun anymore, the party music might not be as nice and the space may become void. Human beings were not created to be alone. Everybody needs somebody. Marriage is one of the brightest symbols of love. It should foster companionship and it is biblically endorsed.
This little song sometimes comes to mind also, when I think of marriage; “with Christ in the vessel, we can smile at the storm…” To me, marriage is a tri-factor; man, woman and God. If anyone is removed then failure is imminent. It should involve setting goals as a couple and working towards them, pooling of funds, building each other and also making a family.
In the Holy Bible, Hebrew 13 verse 4 (KJV) states:
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled…” Isn’t that a relief? It also states in Proverbs 18 verse 22 (KJV): “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour in the Lord”. How many men know this and seek to love and cherish their wives? In Ephesians 5 verse 22 (KJV) it states: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
I wonder how many wives actually do this.
So, from my point of view, marriage is a beautiful thing even though it seems there are some couples who seek to paint an ugly picture of it!
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