If you have just been dumped or you have decided to break up an abusive relationship, there are many things you should never do. Going back to something you would rather leave behind and forget is very easy and many people make this mistake all the time. However, with nine of the things you should never do after a breakup, you can change your life and learn from yesterday’s heartache.
Listening to some of the saddest music, perhaps sang by a person who was in your shoes will not let you heal. It is not wise to curl up on a couch and listen to telling titles such as “Love Lost”, “Heartbreak”, “When We Were in Love” or “Broken Romance”. Avoid depressing yourself more.
Some people like referring to their relationship as “complicated” and it is never a wise idea. However, anyone who refers to a broken relationship that one is a person who has hopes of embracing the ex again. Live in the real world and realize as soon as possible you are very single.
Stalker on social networking sites
It is not right to stalk and hunt down your ex on Facebook and other social networking sites to know whether they have moved on, miss you or if their relationship status has changed. Stay away from his profile and avoid looking at the images on his wall. Do not investigate the background of all the women posting and commenting on his page.
Real life stalker
The last thing you want to do is keep driving around your ex’s house when she arrives from work to have a glimpse of the guy she came home with. Avoid the lure of buying binoculars and cladding like a ninja to stalk them at night or asking her friends who was that guy she smiled at.
Texting them “accidentally”
We all know the chances of an accidental SMS are almost nil and anything you call a ‘message to the wrong person’ is actually directed to an individual; your ex. To send an “accidental” message, simply shows how desperate you really are.
Moaning to whoever cares to listen
Probably you now think none of your friend cares about the hurt and anguish in your heart. However, they probably do, but you could have been telling them about it for the last two months. There are limits to sadness.
Buying a pet
A cat or other pet at this time might be wonderful to help you deal with loneliness for the next few months. Nevertheless, you must know it will be with you for years. Also, remember it comes with responsibility such as cleaning poop or vomit and it is never alluring.
Growing a lonely beard
It is possible you are always clean shaven and very careful about your beard and hair. However, now everyone knows you are hurting due to the hair sprouting on your face and moaning bushy beard. No matter how long and shaggy the beard is, she will not be coming back.
Troubling another ex
You might have an ex you dumped years ago and after your recent breakup, you now remember he exists. Avoid the temptation or the mistake of forcing yourself into his life all of a sudden; you might be met by three kids who have his features and a gorgeous blonde behind them. Avoid looking for a reason to commit suicide.
This article is written by Janice who is a relationship blogger and known for her advice and tips to feel better after a break up.
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